http://www.CoachNorth.com/ --- How To Be The Girl He Wants To Date Vs. The One He Just Wants To Have Sex With
There’s a huge difference between being the girl a guy wanted to date, and one he just wants to have sex with. If you’re looking for a relationship with a man, then knowing this difference is key.
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It’s important to understand that when it comes to men and women, sex means different things. You may have heard the expression, “Men need to have sex to fall in love, but women need to fall in love to have sex.” and while that’s not necessarily true in every instance, it speaks volumes to how men think about sex.
Now I know this sounds complicated, so I’ll be sure to cover it in more detail in another video, but for the time being, let’s stick to the question at hand: being datable vs. someone he just wants to sleep with.
In order to be the girl he wants to date, you have to do one key thing, and that’s to show him what you have to offer him and a relationship.
The truth is, most single men will have sex with any woman they find at least remotely attractive, and aside from looks, not much else matters. This means they don’t worry about her confidence levels, self-respect or ambitions; they don’t question what kind of partner she would be in terms of supportive or kind; and don’t think about the future with that person at all. Instead, all they think about is “I can score with this chick.” Men may try to tell you otherwise, but believe me, I’ve done my fair share of research and even though some guys are shy to admit it, sometimes all they’re looking for is sex.
When it comes to choosing a woman to date however, the thought process is much more complex. Meaning there’s a huge difference between someone he’s willing to sleep with and someone he’s going to want to show off to his friends and family. So, how do you be the woman he wants to date? Well, the simple answer is to make him realize that life with you is better than life without you.
The tricky part about doing this is that it requires balance, meaning you’ll need to give him a taste of what dating you would be like, without giving him too much so he doesn’t feel the need to commit to you. I mean, why would he if he can have you by his side AND keep his single lifestyle afloat.
So, from the top. The first thing you’re going to want to do is be a little hard to get. Now, I know this sounds counterproductive seeing as you’re trying to be the girl he wants to date, but hear me out.
By giving him the chance to pursue you, you’re actually feeding into his deepest desires, and that’s the chasing game. Since men are hunters at heart, when they feel they have to work to win you over, you’ll become that much more valuable to him – this also speaks to why he doesn’t want to date the girl he picks up at the bar and sleeps with that same night. The short-lived chase isn’t enough to keep him hooked.
To keep the chase alive let him be the instigator in your dynamic. That’s not to say you can’t be at all hint that you’re interested, but that when he’s the one initiating plans and contacting you, you’ll be giving him the kind of challenge that will get him hooked. Better yet, when he does come calling you can show him how full and exciting your life is by not being overly available, and trust me ladies, this will make him want you even more.
Think about it for a minute, no man or woman for that matter wants to be with someone who’s boring and has nothing going on in their life. That’s just setting yourself up for a clingy relationship, and he knows it. Instead he’ll have to work for your time and attention, which again, makes you that much more of a prize to be won. This alone is giving him something that the women he’s casually sleeping with aren’t.
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